The saying is trustworthy: If anyone aspires to the office of overseer, he desires a noble task.  Therefore an overseer must be above reproach, the husband of one wife, sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach,  not a drunkard, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money.  He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive,  for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God’s church?  He must not be a recent convert, or he may become puffed up with conceit and fall into the condemnation of the devil.  Moreover, he must be well thought of by outsiders, so that he may not fall into disgrace, into a snare of the devil. (1 Timothy 3:1-7 ESV)
I have had the desire for a while now, ever since my conversion, to become an overseer. It use to be a red hot passion for God and His truth to be rightly proclaimed. It is still red hot, but my passion, my desire has changed. That change has become a deep seated conviction that is ruling and taking over my life. That conviction is found in this passage.
I must be brief, for there is too much to say about the purpose of the letter to Timothy from Paul. But here, in chapter three, we see Paul telling Timothy the kind of person to set over as an overseer. What follows in verses two through seven is the resume of an overseer. And as I reflected on this resume more and more, I realize how long it may be before I become an overseer, and how I wish it probably be longer. The reason I want it to be much later rather than sooner is because the resume is not an easy one. It’s a difficult one. But not only is it a difficult one, it’s something every Christian man ought to aspire to.
As you read the passage you see how what is described as a model man. And any model man ought to be modeled after. We shouldn’t believe nor think that only overseers ought to be those kind of men. No, this ought to be the kind of man every Christian male is. Of course I am not saying marriage is for every Christian man, but that in general even a single man who is given the gift of celibacy ought to be a ruler of himself and his finances and life, and rule it all well.
But more personally, as I have reflected on this passage, my desire has changed. No longer do I merely want to be an overseer. And yes, I say merely. For there are many overseers who are bad overseers, and there are many overseers who do not fit this description. As I have thought about this passage, I have come to the red hot conviction that I ought to be like this man, regardless of becoming an overseer or not.
In the country and time I live today, we need more men who will be above reproach. We need more men who manage their households, and are the husbands of one wife. We need more men who are men. The man described here is a man among men, and that ought to be every Christian man.
I pray God may raise up more men like this, and that some of those men may be given a desire to oversee. For now, I pray for myself that God would make me like this man, and that I not become an overseer unless He has proven me to be this man. I continue to desire that His word and truth be rightly proclaimed, but I pray more that if I am to do so, that I be a man among men.