QUESTION #5: WHAT ARE GODLY PEOPLE SAYING?
Question 5 in our five part series of questions.
If you are truly seeking to glorify God in your relationship, then start looking for Godly wisdom. That may come from a pastor or youth pastor, a parent, a friend, or a grandparent. But it must be someone who has walked with God a long time, who seeks to know God as He is, and who cherishes God above all things.
Otherwise, if you don’t have someone like that around you, then ask those older than you. Which may be parents, a pastor, a youth pastor, and even older friends or family. They will have insight and experience from their life that may shed light on something in your relationship that you need to work on. Perhaps they may tell you that your relationship is unhealthy and destructive. But whatever they may say, we show honor to those older than us by even simply asking for their knowledge, wisdom, and insight. It says we acknowledge that God has placed them in our lives and that they may have insight that we need.
Question #5: What Are Godly People Saying?
By Christie Perez
* How many times have we all seen relationships that need to come to an end? Better yet, we find ourselves stuck in one of those relationships?
* I say this is important because 99% of the time the Godly people in our lives can see beyond what we see. Because of their extra years of experience and the wisdom God has given them throughout the years, they can see what you don’t see. And this is exactly what we need.
* We should always ask those we love such as our parents, closest friends, our leaders, pastors and mentors what their thoughts are on dating. We should ask them if they think we’re ready for a relationship? As well as what they think about the person that is pursuing you (ladies) or you young men about that young lady you want to pursue?
* A lot of times we think that our parents don’t want us to be happy or even have fun. When in reality our parents just are always looking for our best interest.
* So here is something for you to think about if your parents who love you so dearly wants what best for you how much more does God want the best for his son/daughter that he left us with these instructions found in proverbs 6:20-22
* Proverbs 6: 20 -22 – “My son, obey your father’s commands, and don’t neglect your mother’s instruction. Keep their words always in your heart. Tie them around your neck. When you walk, their counsel will lead you. When you sleep, they will protect you. When you wake up, they will advise you.
* In the Old Testament there was a man named Samson, he was known to be the strongest man in the bible. Samson refused to listen to his parents advise, and everything backfired.
* Before he met Delilah, the woman that cut his hair which caused him to break his covenant with God as well as losing his eyes, there was another young woman who captured his attention. She was a Philistine woman; the philistines had a different way of living than Samson did.
* Samson, instead of listening to his parents who advised against it, continued with the relationship and it wound up pretty bad. The night of their wedding party she ended up leaving Samson for his best man.
* Let’s take a look into Judges 14:2-3 which shows us how his parents advised him to protect him before all of this happened.
* He told his father and mother, “A young Philistine woman caught my eye. I want to marry her. Get her for me. His father and mother objected. “Isn’t there even one woman in our tribe among the Israelites you could marry?” they asked. “Why must you go to the pagan Philistines to find a wife?” But Samson told his father, “Get her for me! She looks good to me!” – Judges 14:2-3
* You may not have gone through losing a person to your own best friend, but I know many of us have ignored the advice of those godly people that surround us. Like Sampson, we end up experiencing unneeded pain or heartache.
* Something I’ve learned from situations like this is if you have to continuously defend a relationship to your parents or friends then they are seeing something that you’re not seeing. This is definitely a red flag. You should be listening. If it’s a relationship that you need to defend, it probably needs to end.