QUESTION #4: WHERE IS IT HEADING?
Question 4 in our five part series of questions.
Any relationship we have on this earth should be for one reason alone: To glorify God and enjoy Him forever. What I mean by that is, every family bond, friendship, or dating/courting relationship should aim to glorify God and show our satisfaction in Him.
Relationships are not ends in themselves. What I mean by this is: relationships aren’t the goal of your life. You don’t breathe to have a relationship. You weren’t created by God to marry someone. That wasn’t God’s purpose in making you. His purpose was for you to glorify and enjoy God, Himself. That means, everything you do, whether you eat, drink, sleep, work, get married, get into a relationship, or remain single, should be because you want to glorify God and enjoy Him.
If a relationship has no purpose other than to satisfy you and your needs, which often shows up in needing to find “the one,” then you are already on the path of having no direction in your relationship. If it’s all about you, or all about the other person, then your setting yourself up for a sinful, Godless, relationship.
So where is the relationship heading?
If it’s not aiming to glorify God, then it’s heading nowhere.
But, if you are aiming to glorify God, which means you’ll be trying to display Christ and His relationship with the Church in your relationship, then your relationships will be purposeful and aiming to say, “Can we pursue Christ together? Are we equally yoked? Can we display Christ and the Church together?”
By Christie Perez
From my own past experience, I didn’t think about what happens when you stay in a relationship that’s purpose isn’t marriage and isn’t going anywhere. God can be putting stop signs all along the path. The red flags can be so obvious, but we become blinded by emotions, and trust in our own will instead of what Gods word says. By doing this, we are setting ourselves up for failure. The consequences are often heartache, abandonment, pain, emptiness, and loneliness.
But when God is your focus and your satisfaction, and when you love and know His word above all other words, then you will know what direction you should be heading. And that may mean you have to end a relationship you’ve been in far too long because it’s not heading in the right direction. That may mean not getting into a relationship with someone because they just want to date for fun.
Something to think about is, “Will I be/Am I honoring God by being with this person? Am I honoring my future spouse?”